What We Have Here is a Failure to Communicate

1 Corinthians 10:13 "There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that which ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it."

I never thought of this as a temptation, but in recent days I have come to change my thinking a bit. I mean, it is common to man right? Or in this case, woman?

With the lack of sleep and stresses of having a newborn, I seem to have found myself in a bit of a rut.

Does this sound familiar to any of you married ladies out there (if not, ask your spouse if it does): "honey, will you do _____ for me?" "Sure!" . . . a few moments later, complete frustration because said thing is not done as you wanted, when you wanted (i.e. now).

Haha. We women are quite funny I think. Maybe this is a stereotype, but I think most women struggle with this syndrome at some point in life (and I could be wrong there as well); read-my-mind syndrome.

Ever ask your spouse (or someone else for that matter) to do something for you, but then he doesn't get up to do it right then, or doesn't do it exactly the way you imaged it? Who knew that "honey will you please make dinner for me?" really means, "please make me a hot dish of homemade macaroni and cheese with fresh breadsticks and salad on the side as well as Baked Alaska for dessert and fresh squeezed lemonade for a drink; oh, and please make it now." Clearly, your husband didn't get all that from what you said either - hence, with little-to-no direction, he did it his way and in his time table. Frustrated?

Yeah - what we have here is a failure to communicate. Such is a common . . . ok, the only result of read-my-mind syndrome. And yes, I am looking for ideas and suggestions on how to overcome this one.

You see, it's not that I don't want to say exactly what I want so I can be pleased as punch when it is done as I desired. I just seem to have a road block, some construction, and a traffic jam in the way; I just can't get it out. I don't know how it is for you, but for me it's like a battle against inaction in my mind. I know what I want, and I know I won't get it if I don't effectively say it. However, the temptation that leads to destruction of happiness and much frustration, is one to not say anything and see if husband can "guess" what I want and how I want it.

I know Mr. is real good at reading me, but honestly! Mind reading is a fictional "power," it doesn't actually exist. Maybe I read to many fantasy and sci-fi books as a child . . . ?

If I battle over what to get out of my mouth, I eventually find that inaction has already won as I try to fight my way through my thoughts; my mouth seems to be duct taped shut and my tongue stitched down so it cannot be used.

Clearly this is not beneficial at all! Any ideas on how to loose my tongue and get the words out before it's too late?

All About Us

This last month has been one of adjustments, changes, and lots of dirty diapers :)

Through it all, it has been great to get back into date nights again ... Just a few additional preparations are needed. Our first date after Munchkin joined our family was a wonderful dinner at La Jolla Groves and a short walk around the Riverwoods (and playing in Blickenstaff's). Munchkin was lucky to have 3 wonderful babysitters that night (thank you Rs!).

If you're looking for a fun atmosphere with good food (though a bit pricey), we recommend La Jolla :)
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Such a fun place to go! With all the random candies you could want!
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For our second date, Mr. planned a hilarious night with Humor U (BYU's stand-up comedy group).

"Not like the girl who comes into class and says, 'I am so fat!' 
while all the other girls immediately validate her and say she is not. 
All the while loathing her inside and screaming, 
'you are a size 0 - that's the absence of EVERYTHING!'"

"Most people use congrats when they are congratulating someone on something. 
I feel like the rest of that word is neglected. 
So from now on I am just going to say, 'Tulations!'"

[With a handicap] "I feel like I get away with a lot. So much so that I feel like Obama."

"People often have a hard time understanding me, so they often just say 'uh-huh.'

Instead of getting mad, I just have some fun with them!

'So, have you kissed a moose?'

'Uh-huuh'"

Munchkin had some wonderful aunts come to watch him this time!

In addition to these fabulous dates planned by the Mr., he has also helped me out a ton! Even with his 2 part-time jobs and a full-time college student, he still comes home and holds. Munchkin, time with me, and helps around the house. Last night I came home from a walk to find he got out of class early and was washing the windows & blinds, dusting, and vacuuming the bedroom (all tasks I have been trying to do for some time)! He is the best!